How to Exit Jaded States and Claim Sovereignty Over Your Experiences
We’ve all been through some pretty rough situations in life, right? Sometimes these experiences even repeat in similar nature, really wearing us down. Why does this keep happening? we think. Then the slippery slope into feeling jaded happens, leaving us with beliefs that don’t really serve us in the long run of life. Have you ever been there?
I have, and it led me to severe depression and many limiting beliefs. So I decided I wanted to claim sovereignty over my mind, beliefs, and life, and since I took action, my life has been more abundant, free, and in line with my desires—more than I imagined possible.
How to Switch from Jaded to Empowered
It all begins with an experience, and in this case, usually a difficult experience. You go through a hard period of life, followed by a series of heavy emotions that may include sadness, anger, defeat, self-blame, or defeat. After a deep experience, it can often shake us, leaving us questioning, “What does this mean? Why did this happen? What did I do?”
This is where the opportunity lies. In this moment of questioning, we have two choices.
CHOICE A
Come up with a reason why it must have happened, and then create a limiting belief. It is common to come out of hardship wanting to protect ourselves, so we set boundaries within our beliefs. It works… sort of. It can help you avoid situations similar to the last one that was painful, which is good. The problem is, we may be creating a solid belief that might limit us from our fullest potentials and experience in our lives. This is how we become jaded in the first place—hopeless that things can be different.
CHOICE B
Acknowledge how difficult this experience was for you. Find deep compassion for yourself in this hardship and give yourself time to cry, grieve, and feel. Choose to claim sovereignty by creating a more expansive belief about the situation. Instead of telling yourself, “I am just not meant for this,” or “Nothing goes my way,” choose a belief like, “I am growing through this experience and I am deserving of something better.”
Can you see how those inner dialogues leave you feeling differently? We all have the ability and willpower to choose the path that will serve us best in the long run.
Here are some easy checkpoints to use when you are feeling jaded:
What experience triggered me to feel this way?
Do I have any previous experiences that are similar?
What are my current inner dialogues and beliefs about these types of experiences? Do these beliefs serve me or limit me?
How can I gently choose to shift from fear to empowerment?
Behind fear is willpower, and that’s the fuel that is needed for inner change. Slowly but surely, you can begin to observe and understand where your beliefs came from, find compassion, release, and form new healing beliefs that will give you free rein on your experiences moving forward.
Read our poetic affirmations on this topic HERE. For a deeper integration, print them out and read them out loud every morning before you start your daily tasks. This will help remind you that you are in control, you deserve the best, and it will keep you more accountable to taking new actions.
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